Comments on: When Things Go Wrong

By: Taylor Selseth

Taylor Selseth — Mon, 26 Oct 2009 04:58:05 +0000

Oh, I HATE THAT. I have things organize in such a certain way and somebody else comes along and messes it up, LOL. Recipe for a bad day!

I used to be a cook at a preschool and I had my system for where the cups, pitchers, plates, and bowls go and how they are all placed for maximum efficiency. When I was gone for a few days for family stuff and came back everything was put away TOTALLY the wrong way. I was extremely agitated for the rest of the day.

By: Rachel

Rachel — Mon, 02 Mar 2009 15:18:18 +0000

Thanks, Kate, and welcome!

By: Kate

Kate — Mon, 02 Mar 2009 07:48:04 +0000

Amazing blog. I just found it tonight. Will be back. That thing about getting upset when you dont realize the rules and then leaving because you’re upset that you dont understand the rules and feeling alienated and stuff – omg – that describes my life experiences to a TEE. That is so me. Thank you so much for writing this blog and posting that. i can’t wait to read the rest .

Kate
http://www.freewebs.com/aspiefrommaine

By: Jennifer Gardner

Jennifer Gardner — Thu, 26 Feb 2009 16:53:47 +0000

Rachel. Good Girl for hanging in there. I am so happy that you have a supportive husband. As Gavin has mentioned in his blog, your husband gives you a “safe place” to go to when you become overwhelmed. You are blessed. .

By: John Dale Lyons

John Dale Lyons — Thu, 26 Feb 2009 04:55:02 +0000

I always wish you the best. Hang in there.

By: Rachel

Rachel — Thu, 26 Feb 2009 02:15:19 +0000

Hi everyone–

Thanks so much for your support. I’m hoping to talk with the volunteer coordinator tomorrow, just to let her know what happened. She and I get along very well, so I’d feel comfortable talking with her. Since her job is to work with the volunteers, she’d probably want to know if something didn’t go well.

So that’s the plan for now. Wish me luck. And thanks again!

By: Catana

Catana — Wed, 25 Feb 2009 13:43:03 +0000

We’re all different in how we would react to such a situation. I think I would have been tempted to leave–after going through a lot of emotional turmoil–mostly anger. But I would go on to find out why the person did that and try to communicate with them, either personally or through a supervisor. What it comes down to is the conflict between the rules that society lives by (or seems to live by), and individuals who act without rules. Removing labels and changing the books around isn’t something that can be predicted, and it’s that kind of randomness and illogic that we have to learn to deal with.

By: Jennifer

Jennifer — Wed, 25 Feb 2009 09:04:10 +0000

Believe me, an NT would have been upset by what had happened too.
I really sympathise- I would have been heartbroken too and had a sinking feeling to have to go back to that workplace.
What I don’t understand is why someone would undo something so readily, and without asking the manager, when it was really obvious that somebody (you Rachel) made a lot of effort. It’s so inconsiderate!

Don’t beat yourself up about it. That is the only part where I see the Aspie side emerging in this situation- you feel unsure if, instead of sure that your reaction is reasonable.

It’s not trivial. It’s totally understandable the way you felt about the incident.

Don’t leave the job though- I get the impression that you have a lot to offer with your good initiatives. Perhaps there’s a way of avoiding what happened last time.
(A better communication between the manager and the other workers?….)
I don’t know why I’m giving advice, I’m usually useless at these r of things myself- sorry!)
I sent you an e-mail for the first time and accidentally pressed “send” before I gave it a title. If you see it, you’ll know that it’s from me instead of spam. My e-mail address ends with “.nl” (originating from the Netherlands.)

By: silk

silk — Wed, 25 Feb 2009 07:47:51 +0000

A pat on the back for not letting it stop you. I’m relatively NT and even I would have been pretty upset at somebody undoing all my work.

By: camilla (millie)

camilla (millie) — Wed, 25 Feb 2009 07:28:11 +0000

it’s ok Rachel…there is nothing wrong with you! You just have AS, which makes you pretty cool in actual fact.
the greatest joy in your post today is that you went back there.
This kind of thing can be so hard for us.
great to see you get through it.