Comments on: When Will I Ever Learn?

By: Taylor Selseth

Taylor Selseth — Tue, 27 Oct 2009 03:51:26 +0000

What an interesting contrast with myself, I greatly enjoy eating out as long as the place isn’t super-crowded. The exception being a few restaurants that ALWAYS seem to trigger me. Whether it’s the smells, lighting, the way sounds behave in the building, or the decor I don’t know.

By: Rachel

Rachel — Sat, 11 Jul 2009 20:51:22 +0000

No problem! A walk is always a good idea, no matter what the difficulty.

By: Rachel

Rachel — Sat, 11 Jul 2009 20:44:34 +0000

Hi Craig,

I’m glad to have shed some light on the subject. It’s amazing how many challenges we can take for granted our whole lives, without ever defining them or even seeing them as challenges. Knowing what works and what doesn’t work makes informed choices possible. Sometimes, it feels like a bit of a miracle to have stumbled upon this information in the middle of my life.

By: Craig Liley

Craig Liley — Sat, 11 Jul 2009 20:36:43 +0000

This helped give me some new insight on why Susanne often hates to go out to eat. I enjoy restaurants if it’s somewhere I’ve been before, not too bright, not crowded, Susanne is with me, and there hasn’t been much else going on that day. Susanne, on the other hand, can’t be dragged into one. I know part of it always had to do with her fear of not finding anything to eat on the menu (she is vegan), but a lot of this post really helps explain a lot of the other parts of her reactions I never quite understood.

By: Jay

Jay — Sat, 11 Jul 2009 02:55:49 +0000

This gives me tremendous insight into what my son, NJ, might be dealing with when we go out to dinner at our local Thai place! Maybe next time, I will take him outside for a walk to have a breather when he gets going. Thanks for the post.

By: millie

millie — Sat, 20 Jun 2009 23:23:11 +0000

i went out to a once a year art opening of my new gallery two weeks ago. I went out for dinner to a quiet place, wtih my son’s dad, my son and an artist friend who is highly attuend to ASD’s as his nephew is an AS adult.
th evening was overwhelming, exhausting, necessary for my career, terribly difficult. the next day was spent at hom alone in my room, wtih a meltdown, a headache and the usual post stimulus need for quiet, recuperation and routine and peace.

I relate, rachel!

By: LizzieK8

LizzieK8 — Sat, 20 Jun 2009 12:24:31 +0000

It’s always amazing how we trick ourselves into thinking “this time it will be different.”

By: Jennifer Gardner

Jennifer Gardner — Fri, 19 Jun 2009 15:10:15 +0000

I love your analogies. My husband is great with them and can quickly give me a very clear perspective. If Jason has any hint of fogginess we avoid restaurants. I can see him cringe.
There is a restaurant that we visit and they always try to seat us in a specific corner that Jason says echo’s the sounds of the entire restaurant. It seems perfectly “normal” to me but I have the ability to filter.
By the way, we looooooove Thai food.

By: April

April — Fri, 19 Jun 2009 01:50:12 +0000

Thanks for mentioning the physical pain. Puts a whole new light on the illness that overtook me when I worked with other people. I hope some day soon I’ll have the insurance to see the doc who can write me a nice note saying I’m “officially weird” and should stay away from social situations as much as I desire. Until then, I’ll keep coming back here to reassure myself that I’m not alone.

By: Kate

Kate — Thu, 18 Jun 2009 23:22:10 +0000

That is an amazing, amazing analogy and I know exactly how you feel.
I want to use that analogy with other people. Wow. Thank you for being so insightful and sharing with us.