Comments on: Still in a Holding Pattern: Update http://www.journeyswithautism.com/2009/06/25/still-in-a-holding-pattern/ Ethics, Disability Rights, and Reports from Life on the Spectrum Wed, 08 Feb 2012 03:19:55 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 By: April http://www.journeyswithautism.com/2009/06/25/still-in-a-holding-pattern/comment-page-1/#comment-62645 April Sat, 27 Jun 2009 14:00:41 +0000 http://www.aspergerjourneys.com/?p=2787#comment-62645 Yaaaaayyyyyyy! You're such an inspiration! Yaaaaayyyyyyy! You’re such an inspiration!

]]> By: Rachel http://www.journeyswithautism.com/2009/06/25/still-in-a-holding-pattern/comment-page-1/#comment-62622 Rachel Fri, 26 Jun 2009 13:14:14 +0000 http://www.aspergerjourneys.com/?p=2787#comment-62622 Once again, I have the coolest blog friends ever. Thanks for your wisdom and support. I know that if I am just myself, I will find my place somewhere. It may not be where I was expecting it, but I will find it. Once again, I have the coolest blog friends ever. Thanks for your wisdom and support. I know that if I am just myself, I will find my place somewhere. It may not be where I was expecting it, but I will find it.

]]> By: Soph http://www.journeyswithautism.com/2009/06/25/still-in-a-holding-pattern/comment-page-1/#comment-62621 Soph Fri, 26 Jun 2009 13:01:53 +0000 http://www.aspergerjourneys.com/?p=2787#comment-62621 I think it's good you've come out because it teaches people that autism isn't all "rain man." Somehow people in my social circle have found out that I might be on the autism spectrum (I think I'm primarily SPD). They've been ok about it. I think it’s good you’ve come out because it teaches people that autism isn’t all “rain man.” Somehow people in my social circle have found out that I might be on the autism spectrum (I think I’m primarily SPD). They’ve been ok about it.

]]> By: LizzieK8 http://www.journeyswithautism.com/2009/06/25/still-in-a-holding-pattern/comment-page-1/#comment-62620 LizzieK8 Fri, 26 Jun 2009 12:25:06 +0000 http://www.aspergerjourneys.com/?p=2787#comment-62620 "Between the store and the school, I’m doing my best to be myself and to speak my truth. The problem is that I’m afraid that in doing so, I will just mess everything up. " You won't "mess it up." It may not work out the way you'd envisioned, but it won't work out cuz it just wouldn't work out. If it won't work out with you being yourself, changing yourself to keep it from "messing up" wouldn't work in the long run, either. To thine own self be true...it's the only way. Good luck on both situations! I truly hope you find places where you're comfortable and welcome. “Between the store and the school, I’m doing my best to be myself and to speak my truth. The problem is that I’m afraid that in doing so, I will just mess everything up. ”

You won’t “mess it up.” It may not work out the way you’d envisioned, but it won’t work out cuz it just wouldn’t work out. If it won’t work out with you being yourself, changing yourself to keep it from “messing up” wouldn’t work in the long run, either. To thine own self be true…it’s the only way.

Good luck on both situations! I truly hope you find places where you’re comfortable and welcome.

]]> By: Saja http://www.journeyswithautism.com/2009/06/25/still-in-a-holding-pattern/comment-page-1/#comment-62616 Saja Fri, 26 Jun 2009 08:28:09 +0000 http://www.aspergerjourneys.com/?p=2787#comment-62616 Rachel, I'm in admiration of your coming out so fully....you've given me some good advice on being myself lately on my angst-ridden posts at my blog :-), and I think I'm about ten steps behind you on this path. I wate with bated breath to see how your huge, scary steps into full exposure turn out for you...and in the meantime, I can completely relate to the "huge, scary" feeling. I'm sure you already know this, but I am totally rooting for you on the sidelines! Go, Rachel! Go, Rachel! Step up and embrace this wonderful woman, world! :-) Rachel, I’m in admiration of your coming out so fully….you’ve given me some good advice on being myself lately on my angst-ridden posts at my blog :-) , and I think I’m about ten steps behind you on this path. I wate with bated breath to see how your huge, scary steps into full exposure turn out for you…and in the meantime, I can completely relate to the “huge, scary” feeling. I’m sure you already know this, but I am totally rooting for you on the sidelines! Go, Rachel! Go, Rachel! Step up and embrace this wonderful woman, world! :-)

]]> By: Kate http://www.journeyswithautism.com/2009/06/25/still-in-a-holding-pattern/comment-page-1/#comment-62610 Kate Thu, 25 Jun 2009 22:38:19 +0000 http://www.aspergerjourneys.com/?p=2787#comment-62610 So glad it worked out well in the end Rachel - or at least it sounds that way. So glad it worked out well in the end Rachel – or at least it sounds that way.

]]> By: Rachel http://www.journeyswithautism.com/2009/06/25/still-in-a-holding-pattern/comment-page-1/#comment-62609 Rachel Thu, 25 Jun 2009 22:31:21 +0000 http://www.aspergerjourneys.com/?p=2787#comment-62609 Samuel, how do you mean? Samuel, how do you mean?

]]> By: Samuel Sandeen http://www.journeyswithautism.com/2009/06/25/still-in-a-holding-pattern/comment-page-1/#comment-62608 Samuel Sandeen Thu, 25 Jun 2009 21:49:37 +0000 http://www.aspergerjourneys.com/?p=2787#comment-62608 Good luck with the store and the school. I hope you manage everything. Be careful though. Good luck with the store and the school.
I hope you manage everything.
Be careful though.

]]> By: Jennifer http://www.journeyswithautism.com/2009/06/25/still-in-a-holding-pattern/comment-page-1/#comment-62607 Jennifer Thu, 25 Jun 2009 21:37:04 +0000 http://www.aspergerjourneys.com/?p=2787#comment-62607 Good news Rachel! Your letter to the school was fine too. I don't think that anyone will find it disconcerting. You are being clear about what your needs are. It's straightforward, and makes things easier for them too! Good news Rachel!

Your letter to the school was fine too. I don’t think that anyone will find it disconcerting. You are being clear about what your needs are. It’s straightforward, and makes things easier for them too!

]]> By: Crystal http://www.journeyswithautism.com/2009/06/25/still-in-a-holding-pattern/comment-page-1/#comment-62606 Crystal Thu, 25 Jun 2009 19:25:28 +0000 http://www.aspergerjourneys.com/?p=2787#comment-62606 Awww. I look forward to hearing how the store thing plays out. I hope it's just that no one's had the chance to say anything, but I hope more that no matter what it is you get the info quickly... I know what it's like waiting to find out if what you just said is going to make everything fall apart. "It’s happened before. I speak my truth and poof! Where did everyone go?" Ugh, I get that too. People say that if speaking your truth "drives people away", the people who are driven away weren't worth being around anyway. And in a way I suppose that's true, but it doesn't really get rid of the pain of feeling a) you broke something and b) people left because you were being yourself. It is teh suck. Here's hoping no one goes poof. :) Awww. I look forward to hearing how the store thing plays out. I hope it’s just that no one’s had the chance to say anything, but I hope more that no matter what it is you get the info quickly… I know what it’s like waiting to find out if what you just said is going to make everything fall apart.

“It’s happened before. I speak my truth and poof! Where did everyone go?”

Ugh, I get that too. People say that if speaking your truth “drives people away”, the people who are driven away weren’t worth being around anyway. And in a way I suppose that’s true, but it doesn’t really get rid of the pain of feeling a) you broke something and b) people left because you were being yourself. It is teh suck.

Here’s hoping no one goes poof. :)

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